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標e are so used to the busy clamor inside our heads that we no longer take any notice of it.o We are so attached to positions and opinions that we automatically raise a defense screen while evaluating any incoming information.
標e immediately evaluate what we are exposed to - whether or not it suits our existing positions, our beliefs, our many fixed opinions, and our expectations.
謬herefore, while receiving new information we are already busy judging it and reacting to it, and so we do not really listen.
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And what are the benefits of not listening?
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標e support the notion that we know better.
標e remain in the comfort zone of the known and familiar.
標e thrive on the 'more of the same' routine - the endless repetition that maintains our automatic pilot mode.
標e are conditioned and addicted to our existing patterns to the extent of defending them even if we are made utterly miserable by holding on to them.
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This discrepancy is too much for us to bear, so we push it aside and cope by living in denial. When this denial strategy is confronted externally we can get aggressive, and when it is confronted internally we become depressive.
We hold on to our convictions: we defend them adamantly and find a thousand excuses, justifications and rationalizations to support them.
At the same time we are genuinely desperate for change, yet that damned conditioning is stronger then us and so we continue to repeat the familiar patterns that we have already established. | |
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